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BECAUSE NOT EVERYTHING IS A MYSTERY IN IMPACT PLAY.
I work at Atrium!
…the largest Domina and fetish studio in Berlin. Refined packages, and no circus!
A Very Subjective Guide to Choosing a Flogger
What to watch out for when buying, and where to buy floggers.
Fifty Shades of Pain
My essay about why enjoying the bliss-high is different from the pain high, what mazochism (and sadism) is, and what is not. The limitations of the system of brakes, and overreactive empathy, as a limiting factor for service-oriented tops.
Monsieur Butch’s Testimonial
A testimonial about the power of letting go - from the receiver’s side.
The Power of Letting Go
From tea and nervous chatter to opera-paced flogging and deep bliss, it’s a story about consent, trust, and the subtle shift from control to surrender.
De-powering Labels
My thoughts on labeling in BDSM and why it’s worth moving beyond them for more presence and listening.
Margaret Thacher is Out!
Margaret Thatcher is the first rosebud finger flogger—possibly in the world. Read on to discover why crafting a high-quality pair takes so much work, and why I chose this name in the first place.
Why So Many Neurodivergent People Thrive in BDSM
Neurodiverse people make up a noticeably large part of the BDSM world, and there is a reason for that. Dungeons offer what many spicy nervous systems need most: clarity, structure, rhythm, and sensory input that actually regulates instead of overwhelms. And the support for queerness!
A Note on Dominance: The Power That Holds
What if dominance is not defined by force, but by presence? Space holding in impact play is about leadership, invitation over controlling and above all: connection. Perhaps it is time to re-define dominance.
Pre-Session Negotiations: How to Build Safety and Depth Before Impact
A short pre-screen talk sets the foundation for safety, trust, and shared intention. This post is a quick guide how to clarify boundaries, establish communication systems, discuss consent for markings, and align on the emotional and physical goals of the scene and how to treat those sexual energies.
Wax Play: The Subtle Art of Intensity
The dance between the parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous system, together with trust, intimacy and tantric breath transforms the drops of pain into drops of pleasure. But how?