From tea and nervous chatter to opera-paced flogging and deep bliss, it’s a story about consent, trust, and the subtle shift from control to surrender.

My thoughts on labeling in BDSM and why it’s worth moving beyond them for more presence and listening.

Margaret Thatcher is the first rosebud finger flogger—possibly in the world. Read on to discover why crafting a high-quality pair takes so much work, and why I chose this name in the first place.

Neurodiverse people make up a noticeably large part of the BDSM world, and there is a reason for that. Dungeons offer what many spicy nervous systems need most: clarity, structure, rhythm, and sensory input that actually regulates instead of overwhelms. And the support for queerness!

What if dominance is not defined by force, but by presence? Space holding in impact play is about leadership, invitation over controlling and above all: connection. Perhaps it is time to re-define dominance.

A short pre-screen talk sets the foundation for safety, trust, and shared intention. This post is a quick guide how to clarify boundaries, establish communication systems, discuss consent for markings, and align on the emotional and physical goals of the scene and how to treat those sexual energies.

The dance between the parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous system, together with trust, intimacy and tantric breath transforms the drops of pain into drops of pleasure. But how?

This post shows you the best practices for storing your precious toys as well as getting them safely to your play place.

A poetic reflection on surrender and transformation, this piece traces how attuned dominance turns impact into intimacy and pain into profound metamorphosis.

An honest look at the ethics of leather in BDSM, this piece explores how mindful sourcing, care, and longevity can make leather floggers a more sustainable - and deeply considered - choice.

A practical guide to flogger hygiene, this post dives into the art of cleaning, maintaining, and respecting your impact tools - because care is part of the craft.