Does enjoying pain make you submissive? Does enjoying inflicting it make you Dominant? Not necessarily. In BDSM, the same flogger, the same sensation, and even the same act can mean entirely different things—depending on intention, psychology, and the power dynamic between the people involved.

Whose pleasure are we really serving when we pick up a flogger—theirs, or our own? A personal exploration of service, sadism, and the delicate (and necessary) balance of energy exchange in impact play.

What if dominance is not defined by force, but by presence? Space holding in impact play is about leadership, invitation over controlling and above all: connection. Perhaps it is time to re-define dominance.