The Salon of Earthly Delights
Rules of Conduct
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Purpose
These rules exist to support a consent-led, accountable and conscious erotic space.
Erotic spaces can include vulnerability, intensity and the unexpected. Risk, awkwardness, emotional activation and triggers can still happen, and no space can remove all risk entirely. We strive to create a safer space together.
By entering the space, you agree to follow these rules at all times. Not having read the rules is not an excuse for breaking them.
The Essential Rules are in place to protect consent and safety. Anyone who violates them will be asked to leave the space and may be excluded from future events.
To support yourself and others, we invite you to:
notice their own physical, emotional and energetic signals
care for their own regulation and pacing
ask for support when something feels confusing, intense or uncomfortable
step away from situations that feel overwhelming or unsafe
These practices support both personal agency and collective care.
PART I — ESSENTIAL RULES
These rules are mandatory and form the basis of accountability, including legal accountability.
1. Age, Identity & Entry
Entry is strictly limited to adults 18+.
You must show a valid government-issued photo ID.
Your legal name must match your registered ticket.
Staff may request to see your ID during the event if there are safety, rule, or access concerns.
Without valid ID, entry or continued participation will be denied.
2. Data Protection & Storage (GDPR)
Personal data is stored digitally according to Soul Impact Berlin GDPR standards. All data is handled confidentially and securely in accordance to legal requirements.
Data is used only for safety, legal accountability and event management.
Personal data is stored for 2 months after the event. After 2 months, personal data will be deleted.
Exception: data may be kept longer if there is an unresolved issue, such as a violation of rules or safety concerns.
3. Consent — Core Principles
All interactions in this space must be consensual. Consent is an ongoing, enthusiastic, and mutual agreement.
Consent must be:
Explicit — clearly communicated, not assumed
Enthusiastic — given freely and with interest
Continuous — can be revisited, reaffirmed, or withdrawn at any time
Consent is never transactional. No one “earns” consent by prior behavior, status, or participation.
Asking for Consent
You must always ask before:
touching someone
engaging with someone
escalating intensity
introducing a new type or quality of interaction
Verbal vs Non-Verbal Consent
Verbal consent is binding and required before starting any new (type of) interaction (see above).
Non-verbal consent (gestures, signals, body language) may be used only if it has been explicitly negotiated and agreed upon in advance.
Using non-verbal consent carries personal responsibility — if misunderstandings occur, it is your responsibility to pause and clarify.
Withdrawing Consent
Consent can be withdrawn at any time, for any reason, without explanation.
Past consent never guarantees present or future consent.
Silence, freezing, compliance, uncertainty or enduring a situation do not mean consent.
Practical Reminder
When in doubt, pause and check in.
Respect others’ boundaries and stop immediately if asked.
Encourage clear communication and mutual awareness throughout every interaction.
Capacity & Altered States
Intoxication (alcohol or drugs) and altered states (e.g. subspace, pain high, dissociation) impair judgment. A person in such a state is not in their capacity to provide consent.
Do not attempt to renegotiate consent or boundaries while someone is in an altered state.
If there is any doubt about capacity, do not engage.
Group Play
To join a group or ongoing scene, you must have consent from everyone involved.
If one person says no, you may not join.
People Knowing Each Other or Arriving Together to the Space
Arriving together (as a couple, friends, or partners) does not create automatic consent. Each person remains fully autonomous, unless they explicitely agreed otherwise.
No one owes anyone attention, touch, play, or exclusivity unless this has been explicitly agreed beforehand.
Consent must be given individually and actively for every interaction, even between people who arrived together.
4. Boundaries & Limits
Participants are expected to communicate their limits as clearly as they can.
Hard limits (absolute no-go activities) must always be respected without discussion.
Pressuring, testing, or ignoring limits is a violation of consent.
It is understood that some participants may still be discovering or re-discovering their limits. Please honor their process by giving them the space, time, and respect to explore safely at their own pace.
Everyone is responsible for checking in with themselves and others, noticing when boundaries are approached, and stopping if needed.
5. Safewords & Emergency Stops
The space safewords are STOP and RED.
Hearing STOP or RED means:
the scene stops immediately
no discussion, no delay
After STOP or RED, the scene may not be re-entered without explicit verbal consent from all involved.
Ignoring a safeword is a serious violation.
If you hear STOP or RED and the scene does not stop:
intervene
inform a Firefly, Alchemist, Mentor, or the organiser, Hekate immediately
6. Power Dynamics & Roles
Dominance, submission, service, and similar roles are roles for interaction, not entitlements.
All power exchange must be explicitly consented to.
After a scene is over, power should be restored to equal levels unless explicitely agreed otherwise.
Both the power exchange and the general scene may be stopped at any time, without justification.
7. Watching & Public Space
This is a shared, public play space. Respectful watching is allowed.
Watchers must never:
interfere with a scene
apply pressure
feel invasive or objectifying
If someone asks for space or distance, you must step back immediately.
8. Sexual Activity & Safer Sex
Consensual sexual interactions are allowed.
All rules around consent, negotiation and safety apply.
Safer sex is expected as the default, unless explicitly agreed otherwise.
Participants are responsible for bringing their own safer sex supplies (e.g. condoms, gloves, dams).
9. Joining Ongoing Scenes or Activities
Joining an ongoing scene or activity is only allowed if all participants are clearly able to give consent and to be approached.
If people are deeply focused, emotionally intense, or physically engaged, it is not appropriate to interrupt them to ask to join.
Consent to join must be explicitly given by all participants before any involvement.
Lack of response, distraction, or inability to engage in conversation means the answer is no.
When in doubt, do not approach. Wait until the scene has clearly ended or speak to participants at another time.
This helps protect consent, focus, and safety for everyone involved.
10. Self-Directed Sexual Activity
Self-directed sexual activity is expected to be situationally aware and non-intrusive.
If your behavior affects others without their consent, you will be asked to stop.
11. Specific Types of Play
Bodily fluids (e.g. semen, squirt): All bodily fluids must be contained, not spread onto floors or furniture, and cleaned thoroughly after play. Please use appropriate barriers (such as sarongs, towels, or other protective materials) and clean the area when finished. Hygiene is a top priority in this space.
Blood play: No blood play (including needle play), and no spilling of blood. If the skin breaks accidentally (for example during impact play), stop the scene immediately and contain the bleeding. A first aid kit, including bandages, is available from the organisers.
Wax play is allowed. Make sure that no wax ends up on the floor or on the furniture. This includes wax that is removed after the scene. If you wish to engage in wax play, please bring a large enough sarong or other protective textile to fully collect the wax.
Always follow basic fire safety practices and stay attentive at all times.Urine play (watersports): Allowed only in the Menagerie showers. For hygiene reasons it is not permitted on shared play areas.
Feces play (coprophilic play / scat play): Allowed only with explicit negotiation and preparation, and confined to the showers and toilets of the venue. Participants must bring all necessary hygiene items, clean thoroughly afterward, and follow the general hygiene expectations of the space.
CNC (Consensual Non-Consent, a negotiated scene in which participants agree in advance to act as if consent is not given, while all activities remain pre-agreed, safe, and stoppable. Real safewords and limits always apply): Allowed only with clear prior negotiation. Do not use STOP or RED as part of roleplay — these words are reserved as space safewords only.
Other intense BDSM activities (impact play, bondage, suspension, sensory deprivation, temperature play, roleplay, edge play, etc.) are allowed only if:
explicit consent has been established
limits, safewords, and hygiene protocols are discussed
participants are aware of their own capacity and responsibility for safety
12. Hygiene, Equipment & Care of the Space
Bring your own:
safer sex supplies
lube (if needed)
towel (if you want to shower)
sarong or cloth to place under you during play
Soap and alcohol-based disinfectants will be available.
Clean your play area after use.
Use toys or equipment only with explicit permission from the owner.
Permission once does not mean permission again.
13. Privacy & Confidentiality
No phones are allowed in the play areas
No photos, videos, recordings or live streams.
You may speak about your own experience outside the space, but others should never be identifiable. Respect anonymity at all times.
14. Accountability & Consequences
Facilitators may pause scenes, intervene or remove participants.
Serious or repeated violations result in immediate removal.
Severe cases may lead to permanent exclusion.
Organisers reserve the right to involve authorities if required by law.
15. Anti-Discrimination, Respect and Self-awareness
Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, body-shaming and other forms of discrimination are not tolerated.
Do not comment on others’ bodies, desires or play styles unless safety-relevant or explicitly consented.
Your kink is not my kink, and that is okay.
Every person has different desires, interests and ways of exploring pleasure. No kink is “better” or “worse” than another, and all consensual practices are valid in this space. Respecting the diversity of others’ interests is an essential part of community care.
PART II — SPACE CULTURE & SHARED VALUES
Strongly expected behavior.
16. Roles in the Space
Fireflies (Classic Unicorns or Angels)
Fireflies are present to provide grounding, emotional support, and orientation within the space.
They help participants feel safe, navigate the environment, and manage emotions or overstimulation.
Fireflies do not participate in play and are not responsible for anyone’s safety or choices.
They may offer guidance on resources, calming techniques, or how to seek support, but they are not a substitute for personal responsibility or consent.
You can approach a Firefly if you feel overwhelmed, triggered, or unsure about something happening in the space.
Alchemists
Alchemists guide the Islands of Pleasure and help participants have safe, enjoyable, and intentional experiences.
They may provide inspiration, advice, or brief guidance on play, negotiation, or scene structure in their specific area of expertise.
They may participate in play only with explicit consent, and their participation is always based on mutual agreement and preference.
You must ask an Alchemist for consent if you wish to involve them in play, and they are free to say no.
Mentors
Mentors walk the space, observing and supporting the container with experience and presence.
They can provide guidance, advice, or coaching on play, safety, or etiquette.
Mentors may participate in play only with explicit mutual consent, respecting both their own boundaries and those of others.
You must ask a Mentor for consent if you wish to engage them in play, and they are free to decline.
Key Principles for All Roles:
Presence in the space does not imply consent for play. Consent must always be explicitly given, verbally or agreed upon signals.
Fireflies, Alchemists and Mentors are available to support, advise and guide, not to supervise others.
Roles are marked by capes: removing the cape means the person is participating as a regular participant or in solitude.
17. Negotiation & Aftercare
Pre-scene negotiation is required.
Before any play, take the time to talk with your partner(s) about boundaries, limits, desires, intensity and safewords.
Discuss what each person wants, what they are curious about, and what they prefer to avoid.
Negotiation is a chance to build trust and safety, not just a formality.
Aftercare is strongly recommended.
Aftercare supports emotional and physical wellbeing after a scene.
Follow what was discussed during negotiation, but stay attentive to emerging needs — people’s reactions can change during or after a scene.
Aftercare can include: talking, holding, quiet space, hydration, help with physical care, or any gesture agreed upon as comforting.
If something unexpected comes up, be flexible and responsive — check in and adjust to ensure everyone feels safe and cared for.
Remember:
Negotiation and aftercare are part of the play, not optional extras.
They help ensure that consent, trust, and connection are maintained throughout the experience.
18. Sobriety & Substances
Remaining sober is strongly encouraged. Technically, if you have had a single alcoholic drink, you are no longer sober.
You are responsible for your awareness and ability to give and read consent.
If there is doubt about your capacity, do not play.
Anyone deemed unable to participate safely will be asked to leave.
19. Dress Code
Your outfit is an expression of yourself, your desires, and the energy you wish to share.
Wear something intentional, creative, or expressive that supports the erotic and ritual nature of the space.
Outfits can also serve as invitations for others to connect or interact with you, if you wish.
Choose clothing that helps you feel present, expressive and at ease in the space.
20. Viewer Awareness
You may see play that is unfamiliar, intense or outside your comfort zone. If something feels overwhelming, activating, or triggering:
step away from the scene
regulate your own energy and emotions, seek a calm, undisturbed space
ask a Firefly, Alchemist or Mentor for support if needed
A calm space outside the play areas will be available for anyone who needs to downregulate, take a break, or process their feelings.
21. Other Guidance
Keep a curious, non-judgmental mindset
Respect that others may have different experiences, limits, or expressions of pleasure
Focus on your own boundaries and agency; it is always okay to pause or remove yourself from situations
Final Agreement
By entering the Salon of Earthly Delights, you agree to uphold these rules and to contribute to a space of consent, responsibility and conscious erotic exploration.