Garden of Earthly Delights
Background and Principles.
Eric and I started the Garden in June 2025 out of both love and frustration for play opportunities in Berlin. There are many beautiful elements in Berlin’s sex+ scene — and still, something felt missing. We wanted to bring together the depth and awareness of temple spaces with the rawness, intensity, and unapologetic “perv” energy of BDSM environments. And beyond that, we wanted connection — not just in play, but in witnessing, in sharing space, in letting our private worlds inspire each other on the level of the body, mind and soul.
What emerged became more than we expected.
Today, the Garden stands for authentic connection, deep respect — for each other, for consent, for trust-based play — and for a certain kind of perverted beauty. Up close, what unfolds here seems irrational, perv, in the best sense, and definitely outside the logic of the everyday mind. But if you soften your gaze — if you feel instead of judge — something else reveals itself. Something beautiful. Something deeply alive. And we all share it, contain it, create it as a group. Like the painting it’s named after, the Garden of Earthly Delights invites desire, connection, and the courage to step beyond the ordinary desires.
The Garden is a space for experienced players — people who can move through a sex-positive environment with clarity around consent, communication, and, above all, self-responsibility. Many of us come with experience beyond parties: workshops (often at the IKSK), time in Andy Buru’s world, retreats, deep dives into our own edges. We’ve built our rules, skills, resilience, and creative ways of playing. It’s completely natural to be at the beginning of your kinky journey — we’ve all been there. But this space is not designed for learning the basics. We don’t have the capacity in this space to teach playspace etiquette or guide foundational mindset. If you’re just starting your conscious kinky path, the Salon of Earthly Delights is a softer entry point and welcomes you openly.
At its heart, the Garden is about co-creation. You don’t need to perform or impress — but you do need to bring something of yourself. Your skills, your presence, your attention, your curiosity, your capacity to feel and to give. This space thrives on reciprocity. If you arrive only wanting to take, without sensing what you offer in return, the Garden may not be a space for you.
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“Advanced” means that you have previous experience in BDSM spaces, you understand and actively practice consent at all times, and you bring skills you can share with the group. This also means, that you are able to politely, respectfully (and consensually) connect with others and/or join ongoing interactions and take “no” or rejection with dignity.
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The maximum number of participants is 30. If we sell out, a waiting list will be available.
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We do not differentiate based on gender during ticketing. In previous editions, the gender distribution has naturally settled into a fairly balanced mix.
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Everything is welcome. In practice, most participants focus primarily on play rather than sex—though the balance varies from person to person and from event to event.
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No. During free flow, facilitators become players, which means there is no active oversight of the room. As experienced players, we collectively create the safest possible environment by staying aware, checking in with our neighbors, and speaking up if something feels off. Each participant is responsible for their own safety and for asking for support when needed.
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We curate a wide range of sounds — from slow, meditative atmospheres to faster, more danceable rhythms. During the free flow, you can expect a blend of deep bodywork music, carefully selected classical pieces, and high-quality techno that supports both inner exploration and shared play.
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Wear whatever expresses your inner world and your intentions for the evening. No need to stress about outfits. Most people show up somewhere along the spectrum of classic BDSM, creative kink, or comfortable loungewear, so whatever you choose will likely fit right in. A little effort is always appreciated, but authenticity matters more than aesthetics.
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Yes you can. However, the Garden may not be the most suitable place for a date. If you wish to play exclusively with your partner and would prefer not to include others — whether through shared energy, group dynamics, or simply being (respectfully) witnessed - then it’s likely not a space that the two of you would enjoy.
Some Concrete Examples
For those of you who prefer the concrete over the symbolic when it comes to event descriptions—I understand you. So here are a few examples.
I like to begin the event with a guided meditation, because the subconscious—and much of BDSM, really—is image-based. The exercise lasts about 20–25 minutes and allows people to relax and start tuning into their own bodies and desires.
From there, we gradually open toward intensity. The warm-up exercises (about an hour) are designed to build connection and a readiness to act, to engage, and to explore intensity together. Music plays an important role in these games, which is why I’ve hyperlinked some examples. Activities might include exercises such as “connect without touching,” “sculptors building sculptures from other bodies,” or “take for your own pleasure.”
We close the warm-up with dancing. The very dancable music helps bring out the final emotions and movements that want to emerge—energy that can be shared and used for connection before we “jump” into the free-flow part of the evening.
The free-flow space (3-3.5 hours) and the quieter kitchen space are intertwined, allowing people to move naturally between play and rest. People take breaks, chat, or hydrate—though there are usually still more people playing than chilling. Music is again an important part of this space, so feel free to listen to some examples of the bodywork, classical, and techno tracks I played at previous Gardens.
At the end of the free flow we gather for a final closing ritual. It helps to start landing and start integrating after an intense evening together.
There is almost always something new: a new inspiration finds me, I pick a different theme, a new game, or a new musical direction...
“Do you not see how necessary a World of Pains and troubles is to school an Intelligence and make it a Soul?”
— John Keats, Letter to George and Georgiana Keats, April 1819